on love and relationships

since when did i give an advice that sounded geeky?
not until today...
I was logged on YM today, and had the chance to chat with one of best buds! I dont want to name names anymore for her privacy, and since to understand this, i have to tell you that yes, she recently had a heartbreak.
so we started talking about how its been going on, how valentines day sucks at the moment, and some other stuff. then she asked me... "How will you know if you're over someone and ready for someone new?". ok! im no love expert here, but the first thing i said was, "all i know is that it just happens. and i do believe in that still."

with that in mind, we exchanged into a philosophical view of love. love using free will. when i started with the premise of "it just happens", there is free will there. letting things happen, not thinking what is going on with the world, there is free will there. now going back to her question/situation, her dillemma as she says is the heartbreak. she was asking me, but people say that the next relationship/ what i am feeling for this other guy is something like a rebound for the previous relationship? my only response to her was, Free Will. for me, when you count days, months, years on getting over someone, you are letting society dictate over how you want your next relationship to start. given that there is no moral dillemma involved (since she is not opting for a one night stand or an affair or a fling, nor is there another relationship going on or extra marital affair that she's getting into), asking everyone about the right or wrong of entering a new relationship is opposing the notion that loving should involve free will. anyway, what can others do if you are really in love with each other? it is between you and the guy that matters, not the whole world. (i just realized now that the one that matters is that the relationship is a two way street, not a one way love affair).

"when do you realize youre in love? when it unfolds. when it happens"

believe it or not, it came from me! haha! if you asked me to read it 2 years ago, i think i wouldve laughed knowing i wrote it.